There are a few things you should know about Joe. He doesn’t know about patience. It’s his way or the highway right at that very moment. He’s a business owner and the oldest child. He’s an ‘in charge’ type of guy and he likes it that way.
These people make the worst patients.
Joe woke up from surgery completely afraid of everything around him. He didn’t know where he was or what was coming out of him. The tube you see in the picture is went down through his nose to his throat and into his stomach.
He started moving aggressively and pulling at everything. I had to run out into the hall and put my head between my knees because I thought I was going to passout right there.
Joe was very annoyed and very angry. He had not mentally prepared himself for this. He was snapping at me when I was trying to help and honestly I was nervous to even touch him.
My mom told me to ask him, ‘What do you need?’ instead of just doing it for him. He needed to feel the power and independence in a moment when he was really pretty helpless. It was then that Joe did something amazing. He started reaching his arms out stretching as far as he could and then moving his legs up and down.
I wasn’t sure what was happening and I asked him as I was trained to do, ‘What do you need?’ He grunted and moved his body around again the best he could with an incision vertically up and down his abdomen.
He then said, “I need to know my limitations”.
Here he was a fresh out of a serious surgery, sore and in a lot of pain. He was confused and out of sorts but instead of lying there and letting everyone around him take care of things he was pushing himself.
He didn’t stay put in fear of what would happen, he wanted to know how far he could go.
He continued on like that throughout his recovery and amazed me every day.
Each step he took was symbolic to all he had to face.